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Over 40 and Fabulous: Three Women Prove Life Gets Prettier With Age

by Grace Gold (Subscribe to Grace Gold's posts)
Posted Oct 5th 2010 at 7:00AM  
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More Beauty Search winners Rhonda M. Smith, Shelley Goodstein and Colleen Scholer. Photo: Courtesy of More Magazine

Over 40 can not only be fabulous, but it can by far be the best part of your life.

That's what three women highlighted in this month's More magazine say their stories illustrate -- that like fine wine, life matures into a richer and more satisfying blend. The women -- Shelley Goodstein of Arizona, Rhonda Smith of Florida and Colleen Scholer of Iowa -- are all winners of More's 2010 Beauty Search.

Shelley Goodstein. Photo courtesy of MORE magazine

But unlike your typical bikini-baring and tiara-crowning beauty contest full of tears, More's version searched the nation for readers who look and feel their finest in their later years. Beauty director Genevieve Monsma was one of several More staffers who pored over the more than 2,000 entries in order to pick the final three. According to Monsma, essays ranged the gamut from hilarious to harrowing, with tales of obstacles overcome and dreams born and lived. Yet in spite of the very different stories, one over-arching theme was clear; more than ever, women feel their peak years of enjoyment are reaching far into their golden years.

"Women well into their 60s wrote in and said that life just keeps getting better. They know what works, can afford better clothes and beauty treatments and eat healthier and higher quality food," Monsma told StyleList on set at the winner photo shoot. "There are so many who start a chapter two to their lives after their kids grow up, when they focus on themselves and do all the things they've always wanted to do."

StyleList exclusively joined the three winners for their October cover shoot, where we were amazed by stories of cancer conquered and success through the stress of single motherhood -- all survived and marked by reinventions that left the ladies looking and feeling better than before.

Just five years ago, grand prize winner Shelley Goodstein was in the middle of a messy divorce and jobless with three young children while managing diabetes without health insurance. With the steadfast support of friends, Goodstein landed a job as a pharmaceutical sales rep, which put her on the path to meeting her future husband -- a doctor who is nine years her junior.

The couple fell in love, married, and Goodstein set out to accomplish a dream she has always had: to become an author. That's when the More beauty contest became a serendipitous discovery.



"I was doing online research for a beauty book I'm writing for women when I bumped into the More contest and signed up," said Goodstein. "I can't believe this has happened. Now I want to use my prize money to get this book published!"

Among her best beauty advice for women over 40, the self-described sunscreen addict says to look for products that are specifically formulated for your new needs and concerns. Just because it has worked for you the past 20 years doesn't mean it's the best product for what you're using now.

Rhonda M. Smith. Photo courtesy of MORE magazine

Monsma agrees -- and says that adding what your skin may now be lacking should be the primary goal of both your skin and makeup routines. "Look for products that moisturize at every stage. You want dewy, creamy makeup products. Stay away from thick powders and matte finishes," advises Monsma.

"When applying blush, don't go for the apple of the cheek because it lowers with age. Instead, apply blush on the top of the cheekbone for a lift," advises Monsma. (See more great blush ideas from The Daily Makeover here.)

Yet it wasn't the beauty tricks that lured Goodstein's younger husband in, according to the doctor -- whose tall, dark and handsome looks may sound like a cliché -- but we swear it's the only accurate way to describe him.

"I've never thought of her as an older woman," the 37 year-old told us when asked what he finds most attractive about older women. "But what's fun -- and definitely the sexiest -- is that she knows what she wants."

First place winner Rhonda Smith was enjoying a manicure and the makeup works when she told us about her previous life as an MBA who jammed in 12 to 14 hour days traveling the country to provide consulting services when a stage one breast cancer diagnosis hit. After two surgeries and rounds of radiation and chemo, a cancer-free Smith realized her priorities and quality of life would forever be changed.

"Cancer was one of the best things happened to me. It made me look at my life differently and focus on putting myself first and creating a healthy lifestyle," Smith told StyleList.



Now the creator of breastcancerpartner.com -- a site dedicated to helping women transition back to everyday life after cancer -- Smith says her active lifestyle has her getting more compliments than ever before. "I don't really wear makeup, maybe a little foundation and eyeliner. I find that what really makes the difference is eating organic food, doing a cleansing detox, and taking the time to recover, restore and re-energize -- which is what I teach cancer survivors to do," said Smith.

Meanwhile, an effusively vibrant and smiling Colleen Scholer sat nearby setting in a head full of pin curls -- and we assumed the leggy and svelte blonde surely must be a professional model. But the mom of three says she was an awkward duckling before turning swan-like after the age of 40.

"People would call me the 'tall giraffe girl.' All those things I hated when I was younger -- my oily skin, my long, lanky limbs -- have turned out to be advantages in older age," said Scholer. "My skin has a sheen to it when so many others are dry, and let's just say long legs age well!"



The one beauty challenge the midwesterner did overcome was the all too-common menopausal symptom of drying, brittle hair. Scholer swears by Neil George's Indian Gooseberry Oil, which she works through wet hair and then rubs the extra drops onto the back of hands for healing hydration.

And while the sometime-publicist says she can't live without Bobbi Brown's lip balm, she says the greatest beauty secret of all is your state of mind.

Colleen Scholer. Photo courtesy of MORE magazine

"Stay passionate and interesting to the family and friends around you -- you can always be relevant whether you have wrinkles or not," says Scholer. "This is a time period where women can celebrate their energy, accomplishments and greater comfort in being who you are. It's extremely beautiful."

That's the sense we got from spending an afternoon with the enlivened trio, who were all glowing from the thrill of being pampered and photographed on a professional shoot that was one of the most glamorous moments in their lives -- proms and weddings included.

And when Scholer waved her cell phone in front of our face to excitedly show us the text message her kids had sent that morning from Iowa, we couldn't agree more.

"You rock it, mom!"
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shellgood, 10-05-2010, 11:05AM

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What a great honor it is to be a part of such a great sorority of women from this contest; all with beauty, strength, accomplishments and grace! Thank you to AOL Stylist for making this experience feel even more ... magical!
It is hard to put yourself out there for a contest like this, and you doubt yourself. Life is like that, you take chances and just sometimes ... you're the lucky one. Thank you MORE!

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Grace Gold, 10-05-2010, 3:24PM

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And thank you Shelley for being such an inspiration to women everywhere! Covering your story was definitely a day brightener.

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Ken, 10-08-2010, 3:18PM

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Shelley, you sound as Great as you look, keep it up. You can put your shoes under my bed anytime you want.

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Bob, 10-08-2010, 4:22PM

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Oh my God - YOU ARE GORGEOUS!!!!! I think I'm in love!

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Patricia, 10-08-2010, 4:42AM

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I have noticed that my 30's have been a HUGE time of change. I am 39 now and feel so much more at peace with who I am, good and bad. But, in order to get there I had to do some serious self analyzing and I know that I am still have not completely evolved yet. I agree that we as women are getting prettier with age. I get compliments telling me so. Thank GOD! Maybe crazy IS beautiful. LOL

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Steve, 10-08-2010, 2:08PM

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Life does get better with age. BUT, it depends on the individual. Those that look at things optimistically, getting older brings new and wonderful things. As well as a new outlook on past things. For the pessimists, it just brings more of the baggage they carry over with them.

Teens were...well teens, 20s were fun, 30s were great (like being in my 20s except knowing so much more with the maturity to understand what was going on). Just turned 40, and am looking forward to what it brings.

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jake, 10-08-2010, 3:04PM

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the guy who divorced shelly goodstein is either blind or gay. that chick is smokin hot.wow. they had to have her in that pose . im sittin at work and have new vigor. you rock shelly ! hot as they come.

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RS, 10-08-2010, 2:43PM

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Those women were BORN beautiful, unlike most of us.....

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JK, 10-08-2010, 2:50PM

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When the men of the United States come to the realization that all women are beautiful, if you take the time to look for it,they will be much happier individuals. We here in the USA have been sold a bill of goods by the expert marketing agencies, telling us that all women, regardless of their age, should look like 25 years old My personal observations are that beauty domes from within. If we treat women as they should be treated-with dignity, respect, equality and love, we will all benefit from it. A womans child rearing experience, corporate America experience and all other experiences will add or detract from her beauty. If she is self assured, feels successful and feels loved it will shine through- but if we men abuse them, demean them; physically and emotionally, we all lose. I think Marilyn Monroe was the author of the following statement "Every woman in her lifetime should be told at least once she is pretty." Not individually but collectively, women are exploited by Madison Avenue and are reduced to a commodity which produces dollars. I like it my way.

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david, 10-08-2010, 2:42PM

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Over 40 (or close) cuties: Salma Hayek, Jennifer Connelly, Kristen Davis, Cindy Crawford, sophia Vergara. 40 sure doesnt mean what it used to. These women are still gorgeous.

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darrell eason, 10-10-2010, 4:35PM

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Happy, I feel so sorry for you. All my life I have been into older women (younger ones can't hold a candle to them) and a woman has so many qualities, by the time you get to her beauty, then that is just icing on the cake. And by the way, God intended a woman to be fleshy, like a mature woman, you know? And lastly, I think being able to have an intelligent conversation in the morning, just brings the whole thing to completion. Keep the young ones, and there will be more mature ones for me.

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Happy, 10-08-2010, 2:56PM

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there is a dramatic decline in this decade, of the 40's.. Women do not age well at all... once you see them approaching the 50 mark, it is a drastic change.. what they are showing you is a face all covered up in make-up .. after 50, it's a horrible nightmare...as much as the women's body is a work of art through the 30's.. it becomes such a disgrace in the 50's... No more guys staring at them.. no more horns beeping as you go by.. the best thing for the women who are in the forties and fast approaching 50,,,, wear more clothes and show less skin... some people are going to dinner and the last thing we want to be is grossed out.. leave the beauty to the young and beautiful... on he plus note... see how men age very well with age... that's why all the young women are attracted to them... Too bad women .. you had your day in the sun.. retire now

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Connie, 10-08-2010, 4:59PM

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And with any luck, honey, some day you too will be old, and a younger, firmer generation might try shaming you into feeling bad about yourself, like you're trying to do here.

There's hope for you yet, though, provided you're willing to pull your head out of your @$$.

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kbrown2225, 10-08-2010, 6:18PM

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You are not only an ass, you are an ignorant ass and if you don't see beauty because of a couple of wrinkles you are a blind ass! Keep your twenty-something twinkies with no life experience or knowledge and give a beautiful, experienced and knowing woman any day of the week.

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Renee Phillips, 10-08-2010, 6:33PM

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I don't know what women you look at,but I live in an over 55 community and there are absolutely stunning looking women here. They are in good shape. The men on the other hand look awful. Fat stomachs,big boobs,vericose veins. Women age better than men do. If you don't want to look at ugly people,don't look in the mirror.

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Hottie41, 10-08-2010, 6:46PM

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Wow you don't sound too "Happy" to me. Sounds like Mr. Man got dumped by a young hot chick possibly for an older more mature man who doesn't feel the need to cut woman down to prove his manhood. You definitely haven't seen a lot of dumpy, fat old men who look like an armpit with eyes because of all the facial hair they refuse to deal with. Believe me they do exist. Also I'll have you know that if you take care of your body in your youth it will retain much of that youth as you age. I am 41 years old and am currently involved with a 24 year old man (who by the way thinks I am the hottest woman on the planet) he is hot, trains and works out with me and just manages to have the ability to keep up with me so even though, in your opinion, OLD men age better that is just Nivea for men covering it up. You can spray whip cream all over a pile of dog dung it might look good on the surface but it's still a pile of crap underneath.

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Andrea, 10-08-2010, 6:48PM

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Happy and ead17, you wouldn't know what to do or how to please mature women (probably not young ones either). We are too sophisticated, classy, confident, and selective even to look at guys as shallow as you. Face it: we scare you because you don't intimidate us with your macho bs. My generation of women broke the glass ceiling in corporate and opened doors of equality everywhere. What have you done in your short, pitiful lives? Beauty, brains, and power is what we possess. Please step aside and let real men take your place.

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KM, 10-08-2010, 7:54PM

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Wow. You're really bitter. You must be a real loser. Something tells me that you've had a hard time getting together with a woman no matter what her age is. Well, your mom probably loves you.

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Ruger, 10-08-2010, 8:13PM

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I don't know about 50, my mother and mother-in-law are still gorgeous. I did recently attend my 20th highschool reunion, and the men looked AWEFUL! Men from my high school were BALDING and had guts. It was shocking. The women were still pretty. I think young women like old men because they appear stable with money.

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Johanna, 10-10-2010, 3:51PM

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Oh my poor JK. It's glaringly obvious that you are a man - probably a man who never got the girl, the dork that people made fun of. That can really damge you. It's not too late to get therapy however. Also, you are NEVER going to get the glowing, youthful girl of your dreams, poor fella. Your partucular brand of Misogynism is hard to hide and women will always run from you. Please stop surfing porn and sign up for a good anger management program...

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